Expectations and Demands
A small thing's been eating my mind since last few days.
I did something and then got the critics for it.
And my mind kept on saying "even if the whole world praises me for what I did, that wont matter to me much, but a word of even criticism from "THEM" would make my day,will make me happy.
What my mind was expecting? Just a word from them.
That's what is an expectation,it can be as small as this and can be as big as expecting a car from someone.
After that thing I did, I asked some other group of people about my work and they gave me the critics, simple, job done. This was my demand.
It was so easy to demand something, just for it, either u will get it or u wont. Even if u dont get what u DEMANDED it wont hurt much.
That's certainly not the case with expectations. We keep on expecting things from people and when we dont get what we expected, we get depressed.
It feels as we dont matter in their life anymore. That's the power of expectations.
I personally think, A person who knows the difference between a DEMAND and EXPECTATION is a person to be made friends with.
If our expectations arent going to get fulfilled, why do we expect then?
I tried this, I tried not to expect anything from them,but i failed.
I wasn't able to resist my urge to expect, I kept on expecting, I kept on getting nothing and one day, I lost control of myself, I stopped feeling anything for them.
Just because they were not able to fulfill my expectations made me hate them.
And then yesterday, I got a call from my Dad. He told me that he expects that i will call him daily at night and I was shocked. I never knew he was expecting this, thats what is the thing about expectations, it's hard to think what people might expect from you.
Then, I felt bad for myself, I felt it was wrong of me to dump them just because they failed to fulfill my expectations.
Empathy,keeping ourselves in other's position made me to forgive them and made my dad forgive me.
And just now,as I am writing this, it striked my mind, why me? why I should empathize? They can do this too, they should have placed themselves into my position...but they didnt. And my mind again started expecting the same....just a word...i just EXPECTED a word.....
No wonder i forgot to call my Dad today....
I did something and then got the critics for it.
And my mind kept on saying "even if the whole world praises me for what I did, that wont matter to me much, but a word of even criticism from "THEM" would make my day,will make me happy.
What my mind was expecting? Just a word from them.
That's what is an expectation,it can be as small as this and can be as big as expecting a car from someone.
After that thing I did, I asked some other group of people about my work and they gave me the critics, simple, job done. This was my demand.
It was so easy to demand something, just for it, either u will get it or u wont. Even if u dont get what u DEMANDED it wont hurt much.
That's certainly not the case with expectations. We keep on expecting things from people and when we dont get what we expected, we get depressed.
It feels as we dont matter in their life anymore. That's the power of expectations.
I personally think, A person who knows the difference between a DEMAND and EXPECTATION is a person to be made friends with.
If our expectations arent going to get fulfilled, why do we expect then?
I tried this, I tried not to expect anything from them,but i failed.
I wasn't able to resist my urge to expect, I kept on expecting, I kept on getting nothing and one day, I lost control of myself, I stopped feeling anything for them.
Just because they were not able to fulfill my expectations made me hate them.
And then yesterday, I got a call from my Dad. He told me that he expects that i will call him daily at night and I was shocked. I never knew he was expecting this, thats what is the thing about expectations, it's hard to think what people might expect from you.
Then, I felt bad for myself, I felt it was wrong of me to dump them just because they failed to fulfill my expectations.
Empathy,keeping ourselves in other's position made me to forgive them and made my dad forgive me.
And just now,as I am writing this, it striked my mind, why me? why I should empathize? They can do this too, they should have placed themselves into my position...but they didnt. And my mind again started expecting the same....just a word...i just EXPECTED a word.....
No wonder i forgot to call my Dad today....
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