The Limits
Today, A friend of mine called me up and quoted an incidence. Just before calling me, he had given a ring to another person he wanted to talk to. It went something like this:
Friend: Hello, blah blah blah
The other person: Yeah, blah blah blah
And as soon as he started on informal conversation:
Friend: How are You?
The other person: OK, Good night... And my friend felt awkwardness at this response from the other side. He just said okay, Bye and hung up.
Actually, he gave a call to that person just to make sure that the other person was alright. In return he got this ignorance.
I dont know whether that other person really ignored him, just wanted him out of his life or it was just some connection problem in phone. But lets take it this way that that person really wanted my friend out of his life. Thats where our LIMITS come.
Many a times we forget that people have their own lives too, we take them as granted and keep on calling them any time. But in reality, they are bored of us. Somebody may say, these are minor things, you cant decide over this that that person want you out of your life. I think people wont directly tell you that they want you out of their lives. They would rather like to signify that in short messages like this one that my friend received and deduced correctly. Lets try to place ourselves in that other person's place: We want a person out of our life. He calls us. Our first reaction will be: Why the hell is he calling me? Then we will have a strong urge to say something bad to that person and yet....yet, we would simply ignore him, say him good bye and hung up. Thats it.
Seems simple, thats what that other person did. I was enraged on that other person earlier, but later I realized, he did the right thing. On the contrary, I am gonna call my friend now and tell him to restrain himself from that other person, after all, everybody deserves his own space.
P.S: Its easy to say that the other person is correct, but my friend would never be able to understand him. He would just feel that other person's behavior irrational. And personally speaking, I feel the same.
Friend: Hello, blah blah blah
The other person: Yeah, blah blah blah
And as soon as he started on informal conversation:
Friend: How are You?
The other person: OK, Good night... And my friend felt awkwardness at this response from the other side. He just said okay, Bye and hung up.
Actually, he gave a call to that person just to make sure that the other person was alright. In return he got this ignorance.
I dont know whether that other person really ignored him, just wanted him out of his life or it was just some connection problem in phone. But lets take it this way that that person really wanted my friend out of his life. Thats where our LIMITS come.
Many a times we forget that people have their own lives too, we take them as granted and keep on calling them any time. But in reality, they are bored of us. Somebody may say, these are minor things, you cant decide over this that that person want you out of your life. I think people wont directly tell you that they want you out of their lives. They would rather like to signify that in short messages like this one that my friend received and deduced correctly. Lets try to place ourselves in that other person's place: We want a person out of our life. He calls us. Our first reaction will be: Why the hell is he calling me? Then we will have a strong urge to say something bad to that person and yet....yet, we would simply ignore him, say him good bye and hung up. Thats it.
Seems simple, thats what that other person did. I was enraged on that other person earlier, but later I realized, he did the right thing. On the contrary, I am gonna call my friend now and tell him to restrain himself from that other person, after all, everybody deserves his own space.
P.S: Its easy to say that the other person is correct, but my friend would never be able to understand him. He would just feel that other person's behavior irrational. And personally speaking, I feel the same.
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