Modifying our lives
Many a times it happens with me, I modify my life according to other people's needs.You may say:Everybody modifies, adjust their lives for others, whats the big deal in it? But do people really adjust their life for us at the extent we do for them?
Take my parents for example: They would modify, even change their lives for my sake. Me on the other hand may not be able to that much for them and this inability of mine to not be able to change or adjust my life according to them must be distressing for them.
That's exactly what happens with everyone. We adjust our lives for a particular person and then think that THAT person will also, not to our extent but adjust their life for us. In short, we are demanding a place in that person's life. And when we don't get one, we feel distressed.
Actually, i f we think by their minds, by keeping ourselves at their places, we would find that they are correct too. Why would someone give a place/ time of their lives to you if you dont really matter? Even we dont adjust our lives for many people. Yet, if I have invested ample amount of time in adjusting my life for others, it keeps on striking in my mind that they should do the same, I do expect that. Everyone expects that, no one can be an exception to this.
But, in the end, what lies in this plate of expectations for me? Nothing, absolutely nothing.
People really dont understand the extent to which we are modifying our life for them and hence they would never be able to adjust them for us.
" IT TAKES COURAGE AND A HEART TO ADJUST, TO MODIFY YOUR LIFE FOR OTHERS, THAT EXTRA EDGE TO DO ANYTHING FOR THEM IS NOT SEEN IN ALL PEOPLE. And sadly enough, even I dont have that extra edge, Neither other people whom I expect to have.
Take my parents for example: They would modify, even change their lives for my sake. Me on the other hand may not be able to that much for them and this inability of mine to not be able to change or adjust my life according to them must be distressing for them.
That's exactly what happens with everyone. We adjust our lives for a particular person and then think that THAT person will also, not to our extent but adjust their life for us. In short, we are demanding a place in that person's life. And when we don't get one, we feel distressed.
Actually, i f we think by their minds, by keeping ourselves at their places, we would find that they are correct too. Why would someone give a place/ time of their lives to you if you dont really matter? Even we dont adjust our lives for many people. Yet, if I have invested ample amount of time in adjusting my life for others, it keeps on striking in my mind that they should do the same, I do expect that. Everyone expects that, no one can be an exception to this.
But, in the end, what lies in this plate of expectations for me? Nothing, absolutely nothing.
People really dont understand the extent to which we are modifying our life for them and hence they would never be able to adjust them for us.
" IT TAKES COURAGE AND A HEART TO ADJUST, TO MODIFY YOUR LIFE FOR OTHERS, THAT EXTRA EDGE TO DO ANYTHING FOR THEM IS NOT SEEN IN ALL PEOPLE. And sadly enough, even I dont have that extra edge, Neither other people whom I expect to have.
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